Darien, Conn. — Rawle Deland, a long time vacation resident of New London, N.H., departed this life on Tuesday, Dec. 3, 2013, in his home in Darien, from complications of a stroke he suffered two weeks earlier.
He skied King Ridge. He played golf as a member of the Sunapee Country Club. He was a season ticket holder at the New London Barn Playhouse. He was an avid fan of the Colby College soccer team and he was a devotee of Peter Christian’s Tavern and The Hole in the Fence Cafe. He regularly attended services at St. Andrews Church. Most of all, he enjoyed his friends and family at his cottage on Little Lake Sunapee.
Rawle Deland was born in New York City to his mother, Janet Deland, a former stage actress, and his father, Thorndike Deland, the founding partner of Thorndike Deland Associates, the first executive search firm in the United States. He was raised in Scarsdale, N.Y. He graduated from the Hotchkiss School in Lakeville, Conn. and from Yale College. He served as a second lieutenant in the United States Marine Corp and was decorated for valor in the battle of Okinawa.
He settled in Darien with his wife, Theodora and they raised four children. He spent his working life as principal partner in Thorndike Deland Associates. He retired in 1990 and commenced a second career with the Service Core of Retired Executives and Person-to-Person. He also became a Stephen Minister. He served on the vestry of St. Luke’s Church, Darien and was a member of that church from 1950 to the date of his death
He leaves behind his adored wife, Theodora Cogswell Deland, of Darien; his children and their spouses, Rawle Deland Jr. and his wife, Jane, of New York City, Alexander T. Deland and his wife, Susan, of Pelham, N.Y., Jonathan T. Deland and his wife, Emme of New York City, Theodora Deland Walton and her husband, William, of Jacksonville, Fla.; his eight grandchildren, Devie Deland Perry and her husband, John Whitney, Rawle J. Deland and his wife, Lucy, Kate Deland, Francesca Walton, William Walton IV, Alonzo Walton, Alexander T. Deland, Jr., and Diane Deland; and his two great grandchildren, Jack Perry and Edward Rawle Perry.
For those who can make the trip, a memorial service will be held at St. Luke’s Church at 1864 Post Road, in Darien on Dec. 21 at 11 a.m. For those who cannot, in lieu of donations and flowers, do this in rememberance of him: one sunny summer afternoon, stand on the shore of Little Lake Sunapee, breathe deeply and smile at the wonder of God’s work.
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