Letter: Support for Single Mothers

To the Editor:

Tracy Grant’s commentary on single motherhood (“Feeling Like a Single Mom, And Being One,” Sunday Valley News, May 12) touches on a few of the realities of raising children alone, whether by “divorce, death or decision.” Renewal, redemption and hope are goals to strive for, but are often significant challenges for women and children dealing with the realities of a very public and humiliating abandonment by a spouse and parent, the necessity of seeking food stamps and energy assistance for survival during the winter in the absence of child support, and the complete and total reconstruction of lives without a parent and partner. Women (or men) who have never parented children without a partner simply cannot conceive of the degree of difficulty required to be a 24/7 parent to a child who has been rejected and abandoned by his or her father or mother. For those children having no contact (by the child’s choice) with their non-residential parent, life takes on a very different meaning. The loss of innocence for these children is heartbreaking and devastating.

We are fortunate in this community to be blessed with abundant resources for single mothers and fathers searching for support and help. WISE, Listen Centers and The Haven all provide assistance with good counsel, food, clothing and shelter. Tri-County CAP provides energy assistance. The New Hampshire Department of Health and Human Services in Claremont responds to a variety of needs. Most importantly, the support and love of family, friends, neighbors and church family are inestimable, unforgettable and cherished reminders that renewal, redemption and hope are all possible in the face of unimaginable circumstances. I encourage those who struggle to see the way forward during a family crisis to seek assistance. The road ahead has infinite possibilities.

Susan M. Sorensen



Commentary: Feeling Like a Single Mom, And Being One

Saturday, May 11, 2013

When Michelle Obama slipped recently and described herself as a “busy single mother,” I — and thousands of other women — nodded in knowing agreement. When you have a husband who travels extensively and who, even when home, works extremely long days, it is very easy to feel as if you are a single mother. My husband traveled to cover …