Ethan Sherman Thomas Jenks

Published: 6/5/2019 3:00:40 AM

DELRAY BEACH, FL — Ethan was born when the moon was full at home in Hartland, VT surrounded by family, friends, and multitudes of ancestors. He was a success the moment he was born at home, naturally. His first five years were spent on the farm in Hartland with his brother and sister, sheep, pigs, chickens, cats, dogs and many gardens. His time was spent picking blueberries, chives, flowers, digging in the garden and playing. He and his family moved to North Thetford, VT when it was time to start school.

Ethan attended Thetford Elementary where he was a voracious reader and reluctantly played The Lion in The Wizard of OZ in his homemade costume. He went on to Thetford Academy, leaving early to pass his GED with flying colors in order to attend NECI (New England Culinary Institute) with special clearance for early attendance. Another great success! Ethan always passed for someone older and wiser than his years. He worked many long hours at Pizza Chef in Quechee, VT where he gardened in their Mini Golf Course, and learned about a commercial kitchen as a child with his mother and long after. Later he worked at Peyton Place in Orford, NH where his culinary skills were refined by his mentor, Jim Peyton. He also worked as Sous Chef in various restaurants in Delray Beach, Florida.

Music was especially important to Ethan and he loved to play bass guitar and drums. One of Ethan’s greatest joys as an avid snowboarder was spending countless hours riding down the hill at Dartmouth Skiway with his friends, but the most important and most happy time of his life was spent in Hawaii where he did his internship while at NECI. He really loved his life there. That period of his life he considered some of his favorite and most fond memories. It was definitely the highlight of his life.

The death of his father was devastating to him, and among other life events, contributed to the decline his life took. Addiction became the definition and measure of his life from then on. Heroin became Ethan’s mistress: his weakness. He had long periods of time in recovery doing so very well; working, functioning, being happy and productive, as well as helping and sponsoring other recovering addicts, but life presented setbacks and relapses. He had too many things he felt guilty for, things he saw as failures despite his many successes. There were people who surrounded him, took from him with no conscience, and took advantage of his generosity, even while he kept them in his heart. He mostly saw only the good in people no matter what. Even his wonderful sarcasm always had a positive spin.

Ethan wasn’t planning to die. He was planning his future, taking responsibility, enjoying life and all its sensuous pleasures. We had been planning a garden in his back yard. He never even got to have his last dance with his mistress, heroin, because evil fentanyl got there first and he was some surprised to suddenly find himself on the other side. As a most nonjudgmental and compassionate person, and as a sponsor for other struggling people during his strong times, he would encourage all of you to please reach out to someone in need. Addicts are not bad people or weak people. Addictions come in many shapes and forms, illegal or legal drugs, video games, or food or alcohol, and more. We are all here to help one another to get through this experience called life.

Ethan was predeceased by many family members who all greeted him on his return home, especially his father Donnie Jenks and his dog, Fiji.

He is survived by his Grandmother, Doris Jenks, Uncles Greg, Doug and Ronnie and their wives of Lyme and Hanover, NH. Uncle Rick Phillips and wife of Maryland. Closest to him were his mother Sherman Phillips, and husband of Lyme, NH, his siblings; brother, Ian Stubbs, sister, Erin Stubbs, niece Bella, nephew Blazen, all of Florida, but foremost in Ethan’s heart was his brother, Charlie Jenks of Lyme. Ethan had many extended family members including but not limited to step-half siblings and cousins.

Ethan’s circles, his people were so diverse that gathering everyone together would be impossible, so we ask that everyone please celebrate Ethan’s life as a full circle on his birthday, June 14 th, Flag Day. Plant Something, Partake of delicious food, Do all you can for someone in need in his name and in his memory. Celebrate Ethan’s life with Love!




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